Thanks so much for the responses! I appreciate the support.
Cindy, I am so glad to know that this changes. My ds is in there refusing to sleep for his a.m. nap as we speak. He is whining and playing on and off in his crib. I know he is OT because he was rubbing his eyes and whining for sleep but now he can't seem to get there. We are still dealing with the EW too on and off. I agree that he is changing fast though, so maybe that does explain it. He can now entertain himself with his toys alot longer than he used to also, do alot more physical stuff, and seems to be more interested when I read him books. He also responds a lot more when I call him, which he never really used to do.
Another ?...how do you handle going on outings when your lo is still on 2 naps? That is a problem we are also having...not only is his sleep crazy and he is OT, but since he takes 2 naps a day I can't really go anywhere for too long (just local stores, etc), which adds up to major boredom for the both of us by the end of the week. What did you do? My ds won't really sleep in his car seat or stroller for long if he actually falls asleep there (maybe 20 minutes). I have a friend who lives 45 min from here with a little one who always wants to do something but my ds won't nap in his pack n play either, so I can't really go visit her for too long without having to turn around and come right back home for his nap or bedtime in his crib....which he may not end up napping anyway!
By the way, I agree about keeping the a.m. nap shorter....that seems to help guarantee he at least takes an afternoon nap. If he refuses a nap, I'd rather it be the a.m. nap. As far as bedtime goes...he has REALLY been fighting it these days...crying alot once I put him down... but once he falls asleep he usually stays there, although he might wake up 1 hour into it probably from being OT, then I have to put him to sleep again which is very difficult. I can't really stay in the room after I comfort him for a few minutes...if he sees me it is all over...he is up trying to play with me, then as soon as I try to leave he throws a crying fit. Doing put down also makes him REALLY angry, but I try to do it a few times to give him the idea before I leave again. I am learning that in all that crying lately, he really isn't in despair...he is angry. If I leave him alone for 5 minutes or so he usually stops crying on his own and eventually goes to sleep as long as it is truly just an anger cry. If he is in pain or upset for some other reason, that hasn't worked of course, so I go back in right away, but usually once I figure out what it is and comfort him a bit, he may cry for a few minutes and then self soothes after that (he holds and sucks on his little lovey blanket). I always feel so guilty for letting him cry at all, but I realize that you can't expect a baby not to cry...I guess as long as I respond by coming into the room when it is the type of cry that needs to be responded to. Oh well....