My 8 and a half month old was always rocked or boobed to sleep until a fortnight ago when I could take all the nightwakings no more. Amazingly, within a few days he was sleeping through which was a fantastic result. He sleeps next to me in a cot (hangover from being too exhausted to get up for night-feedings) and now I can settle him in the night by patting him. He goes down well at 7 but always holds onto my arm or hand (sometimes for dear life!) to get off to sleep. He often wakes 45 mins later but can be easily settled again.
So I've started trying PU/PD for naps as he rarely sleeps past 45 mins and quite often I get him to sleep while out in the pram. (The PU/PD board suggested I post here on the naps board). it is mainly PD and again he holds onto my arm to get himself off. Yesterday the first nap took 40 mins of howling. This morning just 15 mins and both times he slept one hour and 15 mins (which is almost double). This afternoon I was gob-smacked when he went to sleep without a whimper BUT for just half an hour. Spent another 40 mins trying to settle him to howls and many PDs. he settled but eyes wide open, playing in cot, babbling, didn't sleep. After 15 mins of that I presumed sleep wasn't going to happen... and he's been playing happily beside me while I'm on the computer ever since.
What I'm realising is he doesn't know how to self-soothe or fall asleep without some kind of contact with my arm or hand. I've been giving him a teddy to hold the last 10 days or so but he pushes it away in favour of me.
Generally he's an alert happy little boy but I realise I'm going to have to teach him to self-soothe somehow and just don't know where to start. Any tips gratefully appreciated. 8 months is an 'inconsistent age' apparently and he's also teething.
Big thanks - Abi
His routine is as follows:
E: Boob anytime from 5.30 to 6.30
S:7 till 7.30 or 8
A: till breakfast
S: 9.30 or 10
E: 11 boob
A: till lunch
E: lunch 12.30 or 1
S: 2ish if lucky
E: 3 boob
E: dinner 5.30
A: bath at 6
S: bedtime routine 6.30, songs, boob, bed, asleep by 7