dear all
i have just discovered this website while my wife finally gets a little rest
we are totally at a loss and dont know what to do
my wife has the baby whisperer books which is how i found this website
our baby boy is five months and sleeps very poorly
he did briefly around 3 months have about 2 weeks where he slept through but hasnt since
and the last month in particular has been hell -we typically get 3-4hrs sleep per night
he is totally dummy dependent to sleep
typically we put him to bed at 7 and he sleeps for 45-60mins
then he will cry for the dummy
sometimes we give this once other times it may take 5-10 times
sometimes he just perpetually spits it out
getting back to sleep takes 10mins to 3 hr
this cycle is repeated through the night say at 11pm and then about 2pm
the 2pm is the worst as it can take 2 hrs or more to go back to sleep with constant crying
he has been teething but this routine is pretty much established now so iam sure it cant be due to teething every night
we have tried night feeding but that makes things worse in terms of making him unsettled (he has been on solid food for 4 weeks)
we have been doing the shush pat for 8 days but does not seem to be working in that it doesnt settle him
to answer the FAQ
What’s his/her daily routine? E.A.S.Y - up at 7am feed, nap at 8.15 for 1 hr, feed at 11am nap about 12
for 45min to 2 hrs, lunch at 1.30pm, milk at 3pm, nap 4.30-5.00 for 30 mins, food at 5.30, bath 6.30, bed at 7
Do you bottle or breastfed?? bottle, somewhere better 4-6 fl oz, he is quite chubby at 60% percentile
How many wakes per night? 3-4 but for long periods, sometime 10-15 times per night
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? long time disressed very loud crying
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? crying - wailing
What have you tried to settle?? shush pat
What do you do for A time and how long is it? for as long as it takes
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? yes but this is for 5 weeks+ now
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months) 3 meals but cereals only once at breakfast
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? a dummy
i think we are doing something wrong but we dont know what
the health visitor and doctor both said all is normal
we have read books and www pages but still at a loss
we had tried longer day naps and shorter day naps but to no avail
i think he cant settle himself back to sleep without us
but even then it takes a long time
the only thing we havent tried is controlled crying which we are relutanct to do for obvious reasons but we know we cant go on like this
apologies if this is rambled, my first post and iam so tired
any help at all would be great
thank you
