Hello and thanks for replying. I just presumed that with so many posts some will sometimes get overlooked.
My LO is now 15 weeks, and his weight gain is all ok again - I think it was when I was too tired to eat properly
Anyway, we now give a bottle of formula at lunch time and one at the DF, and sometimes if he is in a real state at bed time he will only take a bottle.
As I said before I am back to work in less than 2 months now and would love some advice about night wakings and day routine etc - should I post it on a different section?
Basicaly we try so hard to follow EASY but it never really works because he is so all over the place with his naps. We have been doing sleep training since he was 6 weeks old (when it all went wrong) and every now and then he gives me a long sleep.
Also, what is now throwing it even more is that I think I am feeding him too much at night as he is NEVER hungry at 7am, and even now at 8am he has barely had 1 minute on the boob. So he ends up having a little top up before his first nap, or I bring the next feed forward. He is also increasingly unsettled between 4 and 7am even if I feed him at 4.30am.
We normally manage around 2.5-3 hours between feeds and when possible I am trying to extend the times to 3.5 hours but that normally only works if he gives me a long nap, as when he wakes early it's hard to get him to wait for his feed - if I wait too long then he is too tired to feed and we go in to melt down.
It's just so hard and feel like we are going backwards most of the time!
Yesterday our day looked like this:
Awake from 6am - happily played in his cot
E 7.30
S 8am - 10am (he gave me his first long sleep all on his own but I think it was because he was so tired from being up so early)
A
E 10.15
S 12 - 12.40 (could not sh/pt back to sleep)
A
E 1.15 (was asking for it)
A
S 2.20-2.50 (I then took 30 mins to re-settle but he did eventually go back - I think he was OT when I put him down but I am finding it increasinly hard to judge as sometimes he seems happy being awake for 2 hours and other times not, his OT signs are so similar to UT when it comes to putting him down. If I try and put him down when he is UT he screams his head off and then of course only sleeps for 40 mins... Also it normally takes several yawns before he's ready for sleep)
S until 4.10
E 4.30
Could not get him to sleep for a nap around 5ish
Was then grumpy and then OT for bed as didn't feed properly but managed to get 3 oz from a bottle
S 6.30 - fell asleep exhausted!
and then woke multiple times after 7pm - I just re-settled no feeding
E 10.30 - took 4 oz on his DF (this is pretty normal - sometimes he takes 5 or 6 of we are lucky!)
S
E 2
S
E4.30
Then unsettled but kept sh/pt him back till 7.15 this morning...
Didn't feed well this morning at all.
I guess this is all pretty normal, I just feel that he isn't progressing in terms of night sleeping. The first 2 times he took 6oz at his DF he slept till 4.30 am so I know he can do it, but he has never done that again! This was two weeks ago when he hit 3 months old, bizarely though he has gone back to 2am waking again and only taking 4-5 oz.
My main question is should I be trying to wean him off his 2nd waking of the night? I have tried before but I worry that if he is only taking 4 oz at his DF and then waking at 2am, it's a long time until 7am for him.
Sorry to ramble on, but with work looming I am panicking that this is never going to get easier. Also, my DH is taking over the childcare and lord only knows what will happen if things are not in more of a routine!
My gut is that until his tummy takes more feed he will not sleep any longer at night
I bought a three hole bottle yesterday which I think helped a little but he still only took 4 oz at his DF...
Many thanks for any advice!