Hey--just noticed that you're in Missouri! DH and I just moved from St. Louis. Total opposite sides of the state, but just thought that was nifty
Disclaimer: Everything I'm saying is assuming that reflux is under control and is well enough managed that it doesn't upset his routine.
Thanks for posting your LO's routine! Looking at it, it does look like he starts the day UT and then ends up OT. For example, he's been up for ~2.5h at bedtime.
I would say that you should try and extend those A times a bit. Most 3 month olds are at doing about 1h25-1h30 A times. Your LO might need a bit less or a bit more...you'll know your baby best
But I would REALLY work on getting there over the next few days.
Try to extend the first A time by 10-15 minutes. And really work on that first nap. Just do this one EASY cycle at a time
Or, if you feel confident that your LO can do it, you could just try to make the full jump??? It's a fine line to walk between perfect timing and OT. Give the first A increase a couple of days, and then move onto the next one. Does that makes sense? LOL, or you could be a daredevil like me, and start the day and just up everything...I did that with DS *cough*.
As far as the UT, I did consider that. I still really can't decide if maybe that is it. How do I know?
You'll know if he's UT because he'll nap pretty much like he is for that first nap: he sleeps for one sleep cycle and is then not tired enough to go into the next (he'll look happy then, but it will catch up to him by day's end). He might be showing cues an hour into his A time, but judging by his naps, he's still got some A time left in him
should I try to work up to a longer A time or just for the first nap try to go 2hrs and see if he sleeps any longer?
See how the longer A times affect him, and then if it seems like it's too much, scale back a bit. My bet is, though, that he'll respond well to those longer A times. Just a precaution, naps still might be tough as this is the age where nap problems really start to creep up. If he's waking up during his nap and is fussy and crying, get him back to sleep. If he's happy and cooing, try to get him back to sleep, too.
Re: the NWs and gas...it could very well be the case. Is he breastfed? If so, then it's more likely that he really is hungry. As I mentioned in a previous post, if you think these are becoming habitual and that he just expects to be fed back to sleep, then try some of those preventative measures.
Okay! *whew* I think I've written you a novel!
Give these things a shot and keep us posted! Good luck and lots of *hugs.* You'll do great!
P.S. If anyone sees something that I wrote that needs to be corrected, by all means feel free (I'm not infallible...plus it's almost midnight).