Thanks Liana and Katie for the bumps and hugs =). You two are too sweet!
Today has become a no nap day as well. After the first failed nap, we tried putting her down again an hour later and DH tried GW just to see what would happen. GW worked when she was younger, closer to 9 months but the last time we tried at a year she was just playing peek a boo with dad. DH stayed with her for close to an hour and she didn't really cry which was nice but the last half an hour she sang songs to him and talked to him. I think she is too old for GW now.
You have all helped me realize that I just need to pick a "rule" and stick with it. We have always stuck with WIWO but the difference is that some days I would leave her crying for an hour and a half and some days we would get her out of bed after just 30 minutes. Her nap times are all over the place because I was so confused with what time to put her down.
I think DH and are going to try to stay consistent tomorrow. We have decided to put her down tomorrow after maybe 4.5 hours of A unless she shows early signs of sleepiness. Then, we will just do WIWO if she is really screaming but we will just leave her to try to sleep so she gets the message that she must nap, that daddy and mommy are there for her but she must nap. I'm hoping eventually she will tire out and just go down and this may end up being the only nap she will take because I'm sure it will take a long time. The reason I think we have to take this path is because when we pick her up after trying, we try again an hour later but it goes back to the same thing and we go in a cycle of putting her down, doing WIWO, having her fight it, pick her up after 45 minutes, try again and it is a cycle...
I'm hoping she will eventually get the message that it's nap time and there's no getting around it. I don't know that it's teething because she's not fussy at all during awake time. She is drooling a bit but she doesn't seem upset. Also ,today just to see, I gave her tylenol before second nap and it didn't make a difference in her behavior...
I don't know that this is the answer, but I know that like you have all greatly suggested, I need to be consistent and she needs to get a message. Otherwise this chaos of different nap times, getting picked up after she refuses the nap long enough seems like it will be neverending and the OTness will just continue to grow...
I don't want her to "get used to" no nap days.