Ok great thank you! So I read some forums and wanted to make sure the following are right decisions and I still have a couple of questions:
Decisions:
1. Whenever he wakes up earlier from a nap I should help him resettle for 15~20 minutes. If it doesnt work just do activity time, calm him down or do whatever he needs.
2. I stopped doing the early evening cat nap when it was very difficult to put him down and also because I have to feed my 1.9 year old daughter. But I will use a sling then.
3. If he wakes up earlier from a nap lets say 30 minutes before he should then he eats for 20 minutes he will have an activity time of 10 minutes plus 20 minutes to wind down. So he will be awake the maximum time he should be.
Questions:
1.What is the accepted technique to resettle babies if they woke up for another reason than pain or illnes? Shh/pat or start winding down from the beginning?
2. At what age is a child usually able to selfsoothe back to sleep???
3. Is it ok to take some naps by his side so I will help him soothe before he start crying when he wakes up earlier? Or he will get used to sleep with me? What I am doing is put him down in my bed wait until he is asleep and then lay down next to him.
Thanks for all your help. Terrible day today he has been awaken for 3 hours now and nothing seems to work