Hi all
Ok my LO has barely slept a total of an hour in the last 8 hrs and I need help to figure out what to do!
He is 3 months old.
He was born at 36+1 weeks. I have two older kids 6 & 8 (oldest was full colic for 6 months and we did CIO, 2nd was perfect baby always fell asleep on own, slept well)
We've had challenges with this baby from day one. He has a cleft lip, reflux and lots of gas issues
Through lots of hard work the reflux is managed pretty well now and the gas was attributed to his cleft and getting extra air. For weeks leading up to today we have just been letting him nap on us in the carrier because if not he wouldn't sleep more then 30 min on his own. He's a rather crabby baby (probably touchy), always been high needs, carried a lot, hard to put down etc and with two others kids I finally just went for "what works" Nighttime sleep has generally been better, swaddled and just before surgery started sleeping 1 5-6hr stretch.
He is exclusively breastfed
So now he's had his cleft repair three days ago....he can't have a soother, we can't use the carrier cuz it rubs his face and hurts his lip and we are swaddle with white noise and shh and pat (the best we can because we can't let him nuzzle in our neck like he likes because again the stitches and pain). I'm a human soother I feel like. Even falling asleep on a car ride isn't working anymore, he wakes up the second we are home
I don't even know where to start to get this boy onto a routine and help him sleep. Today he often falls asleep nursing and just when you think he's asleep his eyes pop wide open again! I can't get anything done and i'm exhausted. Nights since surgery are just so so (only been home for 2) but last night he did sleep on his own/eat on about a 3hr schedule....
I wanted to add that he's never been a baby to just go to sleep...he always puts up a fuss of some sort....
What can I do!!!!!