Ok, now we know something:)
So with the pacifier, I would say try it at night, but if she cries over it take it out and not try again.
I think she wakes of genuine hunger, either learned or not, but she is hungry. I would try not to make her wait that much. After an hour she was probably to tired to eat. Try getting closer to 4h feeding routine, but slowly, every night, If she wakes at 2, and nothing works (PU, shh) try not to pick her up from the crib for 15 or so min. When you pick her up she is probably getting ready to BF and is suprised you don't give it to her. Feed her at 2:15 for 3 nights, then 2:30... Could your DH help you a little with settling her in the crib?
I really have little experience with solids, sorry:( have you try mixing things with milk, make it thinner, more liquid? Would she eat baby rice with milk and some fruit in it? What if you would give her extra spoon to hold?
When she is hungry after 2h, I would try solids then, baby rice with milk and water after. But that's only if she would not get too frustrated. What you think?
With bottle I am resistent to tell you... This is what helped my DS. He was too active to BF during the day, he didn't want to sit still for BF, didn't have time to eat.:)I tried a bottle, because it was easier for me to put it in his mouth. He took it really well. At first I was pumping, then replaced it with formula ( We're weaning because we're trying to get pregnant again;). He started eating again! This is totally up to you. I don't want to suggest anything because BF is wonderful and important. It worked for us, but it has to be your decision.
With naps, maybe she just needs that amount of sleep and is ok with that. Just make sure that short naps are not the reason she wants to eat sooner. Other than that your fine I think.