Bedtime for 14.5mo

[creations]

Are you still aiming for nap at 12 and BT at 7pm?  I think all you can do is hang in there.
Mine often woke screaming like that after BT with either teeth or some level of OT/OS and for certain phases it just seemed the regular thing to happen.

[labrodyk]

I'm trying my best to stick to 12pm nap and 7pm BT but life is getting in the way at the moment... No amount of consistency seems to work though.

I'll stick with her. Doctor started antibiotics just incase her ears which were slightly red escalate... will keep an eye on her.

[creations]

Oh dear - hope she's okay.

[labrodyk]

Hey Creations,
Her daytime mood is improving but night is worse. These are our last few days... Today was at my parents house so not sure if it was because we were away from home she short napped but I thought she did go back to sleep but perhaps not, she woke after 2hrs crying.

Thursday
WU: 7.30
Nap: 12.01; 12.10 - 12.50, 1.50-2.20. Awake but quiet in the middle part.
BT: 7.05;  8.30 asleep after holding and rocking. She screamed after 20 minutes of being in bed and continued mantra crying. I gave verbal reassurance to start, then in her cot, then by almost 8.30 I picked her up.

NW: 10.20-10.30 crying

[creations]

Sounds like OT at BT what do you think?
I always found it impossible to keep DS on track if we were out.

[labrodyk]

Oh OT is killing us, and poor AJ 

Today was;
WU: ? 7.30 already awake
Nap: 11.55; 12.00-2.08 (fantastic for the first 80 minutes then woke and dozed) 
BT: 7.00, asleep 7.20/30
NW: already woken crying once at 9.30!

Am I doing the right thing?

[creations]

Honestly that looks pretty much okay. I mean I know she woke crying at 9.30pm which is not ideal but the routine looks pretty good.

Do you think she might nap more peacefully with a slightly later nap time??

[labrodyk]

BT was the shortest time in 6 months! I'm too scared to try 4 later nap to be honest. Mainly because it's such a struggle to make it to 12pm. This morning she was rubbing breakfast through her eyes and hair and crying and that continues ALL morning.

We had the strangest day though and we haven't had a mid nap scream since she was little and to actually  be able to resettle her back to sleep has NEVER happened.

Saturday
WU: ? 7.30 already awake.
Nap: 12.15; 12.20/25 - 1.00. Woke crying! I went in and resettled in her cot for 15 minutes. MIRACLE!
1.15-2.50. She woke and resettled herself numerous times.
BT: 7.00, mantra cried until asleep at 7.30

I pushed only 15 minutes, surely that's not enough to make her OT? She has napped later than that previously. Not sure if I should be moving the nap or not!!

Sunday
wu: 6.50am
Nap: 12.00; asleep in seconds but was restless and OT, woke up at 1.20/1.30 at the latest.
^ Screamed and cried going to her room but was tired and miserable from 10am.
BT: 6.40; mantra cried until 7.00

Can't quite work out what's wrong with her...

[labrodyk]

wow, she's SO clingy and crying over absolutely everything...

Today:
WU: 7.15 ?
Nap: 12.25; 12.30/40 asleep - 2.04
BT: 6.45; asleep 7.11

So the time to fall asleep at BT is getting less but yet she's so incredibly unhappy throughout the day. She won't go to anyone else either and she clings to my legs or pulls down my pants to be picked up. And the tantrums, OMGosh, what in the world happened to my little girl?!

[creations]

Oh dear, sounds tricky - but routine looks okay.
Do you think she could do a longer nap if she was up a little longer in the morning?  Some won't of course, just wondering if she might have a better mood with a bit more day sleep. What do you think?

[labrodyk]

Very tricky Creations!

My 4yo never slept 2hrs, EVER. Audrey, I get the feeling, has the potential to when I get the timing right.

How much later do you think? I've tried to move to 12.30. She wasn't happy going down at all but we were late getting home so it was 12.45 by the time she fell asleep and woke at 2.18. Major struggles falling asleep at bedtime, rolling around and squealing but trying desperately to fall asleep for almost an hour. She seemed very wired and unable to relax.

[creations]

Hmm..yes actually looking at your times it's been between 12 and 12.30 ish hasn't it, and no pattern there to speak of.
Is it roughly 12hr nights you are getting?  Would she do a bit longer over night instead do you think?

Sorry - kind of out of ideas.  It's this really disruptive years with teething, GS, developmental leaps, nap dropping...that year from 1 - 2 yo seemed so full of disruption for me.  Part of me think you have to just go with what you have and hope her mood improves.  Sorry , that is probably not what you want to hear!

[labrodyk]

Thanks for your suggestions, I'm at a complete loss!

Today I couldn't handle the crying any longer and put her down early which yielded exactly the same nap length but she was OT at bedtime and woke at 10.30 crying out for a little while.
Her nights generally sit around 11/11.5 - randomly 12hrs.

Wednesday 8-Feb
Wu: 7.10
Nap: 11.10; 11.20 - 1.50
BT: 6.30. mantra cry off and on until 7.00
NW: 10.30 cried out

Thursday 9-Feb
WU: 7.08

She's now 16mo so not sure what I should be aiming for now!

[labrodyk]

And yet after a 12hr night last night she stayed up until midday and napped 2 hours (a little disjointed but at my mum's house so I'll take it) and then was asleep in 30 minutes by 7.30pm.

I truly don't understand her at all 😂 tomorrow will be completely different again.

[creations]

Nap: 11.10; 11.20 - 1.50

This looks like 2hr 30 nap.  Is it a typo?