Hi, thanks for responding!
If either I do not attempt the wake-to-sleep or it is a "failed" attempt, he starts with a mantra cry gradually building to a genuine cry. I respond with the PU/PD, shush/pat, or just placing my hands on him, depending on how the situation feels. He usually calms quickly and will smile and blow raspberries. At this point, I step out of sight because my presence seems to keep him awake and entertained (even without eye contact from me). Then, the whole cycle begins again: mantra cry, genuine cry, my response, he quiets, I step away from the crib, he cries... This can go on for over an hour, basically the rest of the nap by which time it's time to eat. Now, I'm no longer on the E.A.S.Y. plan because we've had an hour of activity - crying - before eating and he will not be able to stay up as long after eating. By this point we are both exhausted.
We are gradually building up to a 4 hour eating schedule. Right now, he eats every 3 hrs 45 mins. The routine I'm trying to follow is:
Eat: 6:30 until 7am
Activity: 7:00 - 8:30 (2 hrs of awake time, including feeding)
Sleep: 8:30 - 10:15 (1.75 nap)
E: 10:15 - 10:45
A: 10:45 - 12:15
S: 12:15 - 2:00
E: 2:00 - 2:30
A: 2:30 - 4:00
S: 4:00 - 4:45/5:00 (catnap)
E: 4:45 - 5:15 or 5:00 - 5:30
A: until 6:00
6:00/6:15 bath, another feed to top him off, and then to bed. If his naps were shortened I try to get him to bed by 6:30. If we've had a good day with decent naps, I'll get him to bed by 7:00.
I have been starting the wind-down routine for the naps early because he takes 15, 20 or sometimes 30 minutes to fall asleep once I set him in his crib. So, our 2 hour awake time is filled with 30 min feeding and then diaper change, 1 hour other activity, 15-30 minutes wind-down, mostly in the crib. Our wind-down routine can take as little as 5-10 minutes (usually 5). I would like to extend it in hopes that he could fall asleep faster, but he tends to become more animated and will rub his face into my chest. I then go ahead and put him in his crib.