Hi Sue.It's not much fun at all is it?
Well Emily's not in her big bed yet,but when Jessica was going through this,we did was Carmelas mum did.No talking,just taking her by the hand and putting her back to bed.
I would suggest a star chart,but before she goes to bed,tell her if she stays in bed all night she can have a star,if she gets out of bed she will have a sad face on the chart.Only say it once,and don't bribe her with anything,she knows how desperate you are when you get to that stage.
I have been kicked,punched,bitten etc and have lost it many times,so I really feel for you,but,(i know this sounds impossible) just ignore her.
When you put her to bed,do what you would normally do and if she's out of bed before you reach the door,just carry on.If you get downstairs and she's there within seconds,turn around and take her straight back.Obviously to begin with,it's hard to take her by the hand,so just carry her.Oh and don't just chuck her into bed.(everyone's done it so you'll know what I mean)
This is going to take some time,so you need to be persistant and persevere.It's also worth telling her before she gets her pj's on that this is what you're going to do.
Another also,in the morning show her the chart,if she's been out of bed,draw a sad face on it.This will probably give her a tantrum,but hey,it's morning :wink: When she does get a star then go right overboard with the praise.
I imagine it could be the whole Xmas thing.Try it for at least 2 weeks,make sure DH knows what to do.
What time does she go to bed?I would make sure she's in bed by 7.15pm at the latest.